A couple of weeks back I heard a story. In the story, there was a little girl who played soccer (Indian football) game. She was really good at doing her job perfect that was to kick the ball towards the net and make sure she made the goal every time she kicked. Her mother would take her for practices and games all the time and watch her progress.
Usually before the games the little girl would practice and warm-up for a few minutes or so. So once during such warm-up session, she went over to the opposite team's player who would be kicking the ball during the game. She started teaching new tricks to the other player on how to kick better. Right at that time, her mother realized what she was doing and called for her from the side of the ground where she had been sitting and watching her daughter. She gave an upset look to the daughter and whispered in her ears asking why she was teaching all good tricks to the opponent team member. The daughter smiled and said "Mom, if I teach her to kick better, I'd have to get even better than her to catch the ball so that would make be a better goalie! (goal keeper)". The mother realized where she was wrong and smiled at the daughter and requested her to carry on with what she was doing.
After I listened to the story, it made me think why sometimes we don't raise the bar for ourselves like this little girl did? And it also made me realize that in such cases losing is not losing but winning or may be better than winning. When we raise the bar for ourselves and others, everyone benefits including ourselves.