Here's the scenario. This happened to someone I know and I need your valuable opinions. Thank you in advance for sharing your thoughts.
Gift giving parties: A and B
Gift receiving party: C
A and B together decide the budget and share amount (how much each person will pay, say $P) and the plan is to buy thing X as a gift.
Before gift giving time, A changes mind, goes on and buys gift Y, spending more than the budget amount increasing the share amount to say $Q. The payment for gift is done by A.
When it comes to present party C with the gift, only A goes and gives the gift, without including or informing B.
What should A do?
What should B do?
That's in regards with settling finances.
12 comments:
A is ofcourse an a***ole and aback-stabber ..
B should neither pay A nor he/she should keep any contact with A ..
I hate such back-stabbers and untrustworthy people !!
First off, B should kick A in the butt! If I was B, I would not pay since nothing was done according to the plan, so its none of B's concern.
B should tell A what all wrong he did, and if still A feels that B must pay him, then just pay the earlier decided share and also tell C that he also contributed for the gift .
And then most importantly B make sure that he never become a part of any such deal with A which involves money.
I agree with Soham & Aneri. I also agree to the first part of what stone is saying (to tell A about what went wrong) but not the rest.
It does not have the same effect if you go & tell C that you have also contributed to the gift which has already taken place..
B should not pay any money to A, neither should get involved in such future deal.
Cuckoo
Also, it must have shocked B as now s/he has not presented anything to C !
Imagine going to a party w/o a gift when you've assumed that you are giving one.
A sounds very rude :-p Who does that?! First of all, stick to the cost previously decided upon, and secondly, don't go hog all the credit :-p
This is what *I* would do.
1) Tell A I am not paying my share as he changed the terms.
2) Go ahead and buy something different for C and give that to C.
B shouldn't pay his share of money and should never invovle herself in finances with A.
Better to keep A at a distance as possible.
Soham, thanks for the suggestion. You're right, not worth trusting such people.
Kashmira, haha! wish it was that easy to suggest for butt kicking, but surely A does deserve it, or so I feel. I do agree with you for B not paying.
Stone, I wish it was easy to say that on someone's face that what they did is wrong. For this person B, I'm not sure how easy it will be to confront B with that. Thanks for an excellent suggest there.
Cuckoo, thanks for confirming the suggestion. :) The shocking part for B was when A walked in, quite unexpected and just handed the gift over to C with B just sitting there watching the two of them. I guess some people like A here don't value relationships or may be don't know how to keep one healthy.
Pitu, right you are in saying "hog all the credit". Thanks for your suggestion.
Manasa, thanks. :) I like your suggestion too.
Thank YOU everyone for all your suggestions.
If C knows that there was contribution of B as well in the gift, B should pay the said amount (The amount which was fixed in the budget at the first time. Backstabbing punishment should always be there, so that A never repeats it with anyone in future). If thats not the case, then B should cancel the deal with A. Buy another gift and give it to C.
Snehal, thanks. Apparently, C does not know that the gift is from B as well or rather was supposed to be from B as well.
so what did B do finally?
Kashmira, curious, just like me. :) B gave the money and A accepted it (that was a surprise! at least for me as a third person). B has decided never to deal with any financial or for that matter keep any other sort of association with A.
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