Showing posts with label Grandparents. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Grandparents. Show all posts

Tuesday, December 02, 2008

Remembering Bapuji

Recently, I read that "the best classroom in the world is near our grand-parents' feet". I can't recall where I read it, but I really liked it. Then I realized that it's not only limited to grand-parents but any experienced elder family member so long as we are patient to sit with them, next to them to listen to them. And while I pondered upon that I realized that I had promised to Cuckoo that I will share this story with her.

Dr. Anantrai V. Dave A little background before I tell the story. A couple of months ago, I got this book from Nalinifaiba (mom's aunt, grandpa's cousin). First of all, thank you, Faiba! For sending this one. I didn't even know this book existed until then as it was written in the year 2000 after I left India and didn't know there were folks working on such a book since past few years at the time. It is a book by Shri Moolshankar Jeevanlal Pathak & Shri Kiritbhai Moolshankar Pathak; it is my maternal grandfather's life story. These are the two men to whom I am eternally grateful to for putting this book together because I've got to know more of my grandpa from this book than his life that I saw when he was with us. They've gone around and talked to people and pestered them to share more and more stories they know of grandpa to put this one together. I won't go into the details about that as it would fill up yet another book about how they started writing the first drafts and put together their collected information about someone who was not related to them but touched the deep chords of their hearts by how he lived his life and what he did. Tears well up in my eyes at every single page of thsi book and I feel more blessed reading each and every single story in it - to have such grandfather who is not only an inspiration to the family members but to almost every single person that knows him.

The book and stories are written in Gujarati so I will share that as well as my attempt to describe the incident in English.

ગરીબ કુટુંબ પતિ-પત્ની, બાળકો માંડમાંડ ગુજરાન ચાલે. વેતરાં અને ઢસરડાને કારણે પત્નીને ક્ષયરોગ લાગુ પડ્યો. મોડી ખબર પડી. ઍક્સ-રે જોઇને કુટુંબના દાક્તરે આશા છોડી દીઘી. સલાહ આપી થોડા દિવસની મહેમાન છે. થાય તેટલી સેવાચાકરી કરો. ભાઇને માથે તો આભ તૂટી પડ્યું. ગરીબ સંસાર ચૂંથાઇ જશે, બાળકો કેમ ઉછરશે વિગેરે ચિંતામાં તે પણ અર્ધો થઇ ગયો. કોઇએ સલાહ આપી કે 'દાક્તર અનંતરાય દવેને બતાવો'. દાક્તર દવેએ એક્સ-રે અને બીજા રિપોર્ટ જોયા. પત્નીને ઝીણવટથી તપાસી ગભરાવા જેવું નથી હવે તો ક્ષયરોગ કાબૂમાં આવી ગયો છે. જિંથરી ક્ષયની હૉસ્પિટલમાં લઇ જાઓ. હું ચિટ્ટી લખી દઉં છું. ખર્ચની ચિંતા ન કરતાં. બધું ગોઠવાઇ જશે અને બધું એવું ગોઠવાઇ ગયું કે એ બાઇ અત્યારે દિકરાના દિકરાને રમાડે છે અને સવાર-સાંજ ભગવાનની સાથે સાથે ડૉ. અનંતરાય દવેનું નામ લે છે.
Source: સમાજ સેવાના વ્રતધારી ડૉ. અનંતરાય વી. દવે, જીવન કથા (Life Story, Dr. Anantrai V. Dave - the one who vowed for social service)

Translation:
Needy family, husband-wife, kids were barely surviving. Because of overwork and no proper care, the wife was diagnosed with tuberculosis. It was too late. The family doctor looked at the x-ray and gave up all hopes. Said nothing could be done now, just help the wife spend rest of her remaining life as best as they can. The husband was suddenly overtaken by this great misfortune. Suffering thoughts of how his poor family will be tormented, how will the kids be raised, bothered him. Someone suggested 'take your wife to Dr. Anantrai Dave'. Dr. Dave looked at the x-ray and reports and performed a detailed check-up. He said things seem to be in control. Take your wife to Jinthri TB Hospital, I will write a note. Don't worry about the expenditure. Everything will be fine and everything became fine such a way that today the wife has become a grandmother and day and night she prays to God along with to Dr. Anantrai Dave.
And today's fortune reminded me of Bapuji even more. It says "To be simple is to be great". May God bless him to be in a better state wherever he is and for me to be more like him.

God bless.

Friday, November 03, 2006

Entry for November 03, 2006

It is wonderful day today! For two reasons:

(1) Dada/Motabhai/KKJani was born on 10th November 106 years ago. I feel very proud to have him as grandfather. Since quite a few days I have been remembering him and I am reminded of some of the things I knew about him and other things I heard about him from others.

He was very simple man. Lived simple life, ate simple food. That is something I would like to learn in my life from him is to be simple in everything you do.

When he was young, he went to Mumbai for work. When he returned after a couple of years he found out that his grandfather - Ambashankar Jani - had passed away. When Kashiramdada told him that Ambashankar dada did not want him to return back to Mumbai, he decided he would never go back to Mumbai. Since that moment he never set foot in Mumbai as long as he lived.

He was very strict when his children were young but became like a good friend to them as they grew older. As his granddaughter, I was always too scared to go near him when I was a kid but as I grew older, I got to know him more and felt more comfortable around him.

When I think of him, I am reminded of him sitting in his chair and writing with his black-rimmed glasses on. He was a fantastic writer. He wrote articles in numerous magazines and periodicals. Some of them include Jan Kalyan, Geeta Dharma, Ramakadu (kids' periodical), and many more. I am having hard time recalling all of them at the moment. All his writings are sitting in a cabinet at home in Ahmedabad right now. Some of them never been published. Wish I get to fulfill my dream of having them published some day.

Thank you, Dada for everything you’ve given to us.

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(2) I found out only this morning that it is also Mukta Ba's birthday today! She has turned 85 today. A very happy birthday to my darling grandmother. I really miss her very much.

An amazing woman is what I consider her. Always stood by my grandfather and raised her children well. Such considerate woman, always doing things for others without saying a word, without any complaints. Never interfering in anyone else’s life unless asked, is something to learn from her. Very tolerant woman who has suffered her share of hardships in life but never let her bad experiences affect her behavior. It is difficult to be such a person.

Every time I eat ice-cream I am reminded of her. She is a BIG ice-cream fan! It is great fun to sit next to her and enjoy those one or two bowls of ice-cream with her. Those moments that I could spend with her when I visited her are truly blessed moments. Wish I get to do that more often and for longer period of times.

I pray to God for her good health. I thank her for being who she is. Thank you, Ba, for everything you’ve given to us.

And a very special thank you to Dhruvamama for sending me birthdates of maternal grandparents, and great grandparents. Dhruvamama, I can’t thank you enough. I don’t have words. It is indeed a beautiful day! Happy day!